It must be that many churches stop here when they preach this but without even a mention to the rest of the story. If we read the rest of what Paul was trying to tell us then how should we treat our wives?
I would say much differently then we do now. read on...
25-28Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church-a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor-since they're already "one" in marriage.
So, we are to love and go all out for our wives in the same way that Christ did for the church, but what did Christ do for the Church? He laid his life down for the church so that "She" could be saved from an eternity separated from God His Love for humanity (the church) and his obedience to the father (God as a whole) drove him to finish what he was sent here to do in the first place. to concur sin and death and provide us a way to God where there was no way before.
How many of us treat our wives with this kind of value? I haven't, and I know that many of those who keep their wives under their thumbs would try to claim an exemption to this, but it is written, it is written in plain English and we will be responsible to God for the ways that we have treated our wives and many of us will be ashamed of ourselves when our true motives are revealed. Motives we may not have even realized were there, for if we only knew how good life can be by following Christ's example, we would have done it long ago, but the world has us fooled into this control mentality that we are blinded by it. read on...
29-33No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That's how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become "one flesh." This is a huge mystery, and I don't pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.
Caring for His wife like he cares for his own body...what a concept.